Although we may not agree on the nature of the Bible and the existence of an all powerful, loving creator, what we do agree on is that people who are suffering need compassion. I am beyond grieved that people would use the tragedy of your son’s passing to troll you and take cowardly shots at your family in this time of brokenness. The loss of a child is one of the most traumatic events that can occur to a human being and my sympathies are with you and your family at this time. I have some experience in this suffering as well.
Mr. Warren, when I was a believer and endured a similar trial, the church informed me that real Christians have limits to their grieving and my window for “acceptable grief” had passed should I desire to keep calling myself a Christian. I was devastated. While I know you have never promoted such a doctrine at Saddleback Church, I want you to know that the lack of compassion is not limited to the “haters”. It is given to those empowered by the anonymity of the Internet, but also finds comfort in the unquestionable authority of the bully pulpit.
While I do not attend your church, my understanding is that you have tried to make Christianity as universally welcome and compassionate as possible.
May your family find peace in the equity you have created in your friendships and in your church.
Let the haters hate from their quiet, anonymous corners…their influence is limited to such a place.
Let the judgers, judge with no eyes upon themselves…internalization is key to growth.
We are all mortals, flawed, but trying to keep the steer of our ship towards true north.
In common, we are both educators in our own way. You give people hope and purpose—we arm them with the confidence to pull back the curtain and tell the manipulators that they have no place in the twenty-first century.
You have my respect and my thoughts in this difficult time.